“Realize that everyone that you think is perfect feels like they’re not good enough, too.”- Alessia Cara
For most of my life I’ve battled with one consistent thing and that thing was never feeling good enough. Ever since I was a child I’ve strived for perfection in every aspect of my life. I can remember in the second grade I cried my eyes out when I got my first B+ on my report card instead of an A. I remember that I felt like I should have been better. That getting a B was unexceptionable. I quickly grew out of this kind of perfection in middle school where I basically guessed on every answer, but the need to be perfect would go into other areas of my life.
Is my weight good for my size? Am I pretty enough? Why am I not like “fill in the blank”? Why don’t I have any friends? Do people just not like me? How dare I mess this up.
Today at work I just kept thinking “why am I not perfect at my job like everyone else?”
I kept getting frustrated with myself. It’s stressful enough they only have me scheduled 2 days a week so I put so much pressure on myself to make sure I didn’t make any mistakes. Yet when I did that I made a mistake of ringing in the wrong item for one of the guests.
I go into full on panick mode when one of my co-workers comes up to me and tells me “it’s okay we all make mistakes.” When she said that it immediately made me feel better.
I’ve noticed this same thing with other people. They strive for perfection. When in reality none of us were born to be perfect. Yet why do so many of us act like we have to be?
I think it’s an admirable thing to strive to do your best, but we shouldn’t beat ourselves up if we do make a mistake. We are all human, and we all make mistakes. We all also have our faults in some shape or form.
There also generally comes with a certain envy with this. We see all these people who have something we want and feel jealous that we don’t have that in our lives. I can honestly tell you I’ve looked at posts on Facebook or Instagram where I see someone talking about how wonderful their boyfriend is and all this jealousy will come over me.
“What’s wrong with me that I can’t love like that?”
..And there it goes again. Back to where we just don’t feel good enough. That’s why whenever I start to think that way I remember to be happy for that person. Yes, that person might have a great relationship, fancy sports car, nice house, great kids, but we don’t see all their story. Nobody I mean nobodies life is perfect whether you want to believe it or not. We all have problems and stuff in our lives that make us feel less then.
The difference between the confident person and the insecure person though is that the confident person knows they have flaws but works on them or embraces them. While the insecure person thinks of all their flaws and just reminds themselves constantly why their not good enough. I want to be the confident one. The one who dances around to music, wearing Mickey pajamas, and taking weird pictures of herself haha.
The truth is I’m good enough even if I can’t see it sometimes and so are you. We are all good enough, but only you have the choose whether you will believe it or not. At the end of the day a million people could tell you that you were enough, but it wouldn’t matter unless you actually believed it for yourself.
So today I’m going to challenge myself and you to stop criticizing yourself every time you make a mistake. To remember when you see these people you think so highly of you remember you are just as good as them. You are an amazing person but don’t take my word for it believe it for yourself! Because you are the one that can love you through the good, the bad, and the ugly.
I hope you are all having a lovely day! Stay beautiful! ,