“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche
I think that sometimes it’s just hard to put yourself out there and be like “this is me.” I dare to ask you who are you? Do you know? The real question is: Do any of us really? I know that’s like a really deep question, but it’s the truth. I could tell you my name. I could tell you where I live. I could tell you my interests. I could tell you a lot of things. Yet those are all just pieces about me. But they’re not actually me.
I have a theory and that is: I believe we spend our whole lives discovering who we really are. This theory mind sound out there, but just roll with me. If you think about it our truest selves are usually showcased when we are very little kids and when we get closer to dying. I think this reason is because as kids we don’t really care about other people’s opinions yet because we haven’t learned that. So for example a little boy will play with a Barbie which later on in his life will be labeled “girly”.
The little boy then will most likely give up playing with the Barbie because he doesn’t want to be teased by the other kids. Which I find sad. Because kids should feel like they can do anything they want to without having to worry about a label of something only being for “boys” or “girls”. Yet so many humans fall trap of “labels” throughout their whole lives. These silly labels people come up with for things keep people away from being true to themselves.
Then we grow up and get old these labels seem to not matter as much. Now that being said there are still very many judgmental old people. However; you will find most stop caring what people think as much. Why? Because they realize silly things that people put so much effort into like your looks begin to fade. They then realize that all these dumb “labels” in the end really do not matter because they all fade anyway. So if that’s the case shouldn’t we just live our lives the way that makes us happy?
So what I’m trying to say is if you want to dye your hair blue..GO DYE IT BLUE!! Who cares if someone has an opinion or “labels” you. This may say morbid, but we all end up in grave. Or in ashes. But you get the point. We all live this life and we all die. I believe we go to Heaven because I have my faith in God. But whether you believe in God or not we all face death at one point. And the scary thing is we don’t know when it could be.
One of my biggest fears is living my life and getting to the end realizing I never did the things I wanted to do. Life is way to short to say “Oh well I can’t do that because people will judge me.” It’s your life darling! People are going to judge you no matter what you do. But you only have ONE life on this Earth.
If you want to ride a motorcycle girl go ride that motorcycle. You don’t have to be married to a biker to be one. Men if you want to paint your fingernails. Do it! This may sound silly, but I once had a guy friend in the 3rd grade who would paint his nails and show me. He was one of the kindest and happiest people I remember from my childhood.
I Facebook stalked him years later to see what had happened to him (yes I’m admitting to this, but don’t act like you don’t do it too) and he turned out to be leading a very successful life. And no he didn’t end up being gay. Which most people would probably say he would become simply because he painted his nails growing up because it’s labeled “girly.” But guess what he didn’t care, he did what he wanted to and this guy ended up successful and happy. We could all learn a lesson from him.
Don’t let what anyone may think of you stop you from doing anything you want to do. Because in the end if you do what you want to do you will:
- Be more successful
- Be happier
There are so many benefits of just sticking true to yourself. We may not ever fully be our true selves, because I believe that is a journey we have to go through, but what we can do is be the truest self of ourselves that we can be. What I mean by that is just live your life the best you can, by being the best you that you know how to. You will grow and change all the time closer to the person you were meant to be, but throughout the journey just stay true to what you know about yourself.
I hope you all are having a beautiful day! Write to you all tomorrow,