Positively Optimistic Day #56- Outside Perspective

“The only thing you sometimes have control over is perspective. You don’t have control over your situation. But you have a choice about how you view it.”-Chris Pine

You ever think back to something about your life and all of a sudden it’s like you’re watching a movie? I find myself doing that quite a bit. Now I’m not saying to do it as much as me but if you can look back and reflect over a situation and learn from it then that is good.

The thing is we compare ourselves so much to people. Thinking we should be like one of our friends, an instagram model, a celebrity, a “you feel in the blank.” The problem with that is it tends to bring us all down. Instead of using it as some motivation we put ourselves down on why we can’t be like that. The only person we need to be better than is the person we were yesterday. I know I have to remind myself of that.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a gorgeous woman and wished I looked like her. The thing is most of those woman were probably feeling the same way about themselves even though they were very beautiful. Yet someone who doesn’t even know them thinks they are gorgeous.

I’ve been thinking about many recent times I felt so insecure like yesterday. I didn’t feel like I was as good as everyone else and that’s why people were targeting me. Ever since I got bullied as a child I always seemed to fear it was something wrong with me. The truth is there wasn’t anything wrong with me. There was something wrong with them.

Yeah maybe sometimes when I got bullied the stuff was true; like I was overweight for example. The thing is though being overweight shouldn’t make you feel like you are a wasted spade. In fact there are so many gorgeous, heavier woman. I wish now looking back that I could have told myself to just believe in myself and that their opinions did not matter.

It’s weird because when I went to college I got heavier again but I got lots of dates. After losing 60 lbs I wondered where all the guys went and the truth is I don’t think it was as much about my weight but the confidence I carried back then. After starting to lose the weight I got put down by people and had recently been through a breakup so I felt insecure and it showed.

I have had very high confidence and very low confidence throughout my life. Right now I’m trying to get back on the high confidence. The thing is though when I was more confident I based it more on whether people liked me or not so I don’t base that on true confidence. Now I’m working on trying to be confident no matter what other people’s opinions are of me. It may take a while to feel like a 100 percent in my own skin but I know I can do it.

What I think I’m going to try to go is look at myself from an outside perspective. Like I was my own friend. Because I know I wouldn’t treat a friend like I do myself most of the time. So I’m going to start being my own BFF. I’m going to view myself with fresh eyes and treat myself like I deserve to be treated. I dare you all to do the same thing! Thank you all for reading!

Talk to you lovelies tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

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