“Eventually all things fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moments, and know EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.”
— Albert Schweitzer
I’m a strong believer in everything that has happened to me for a reason. The good, bad, and the plain ugly things. I thought everyone believed in the old quote “everything happens for a reason.” However I had an ex tell me he didn’t believe in it. He also said this as we were breaking up..I know..ouch haha.
But regardless I think it’s silly not to believe in it. I can look back at about any event in my life and tell you it happened for a reason. I’m not saying I liked what happened at all. What I’m saying is that no matter what happened later down the road I could tell you why it happened. I could learn from each of the experiences. And honestly I wouldn’t be who I am today without going through the things I’ve been through.
I made a new friend recently and she is in her 30s and she always tells me how mature I am for my age. It’s funny I used to get that a lot more as a child. It was like I was a 7 year old with a 40 year old brain. I sometimes think I was more mature in some ways then, than I am now. Regardless I’ve always been more mature than others in some ways. (Other ways I’m very immature to be honest) Yet I wouldn’t have this mature perspective on things if I didn’t go through things in my life.
The way I look at it we can do two things with the stuff we have been given:
1. We give up. Have a pity party for ourselves.
2. We can use the experiences to learn from and grow.
For the longest time I was number one. When things didn’t go my way I’d just shut down and feel sorry for myself. I’d then let myself sink into a deep depression. I learned over the years it’s so much better to go with the second one.
For so many years I was waiting for someone to come help me. To somehow make everything better for me. The thing about that is I already had that power inside of me. And to be honest if you are in the same place as I was there’s not going to be anyone in your life that’s going to pull you out of something. Yes, people can help, but only you have the power to change your life.
You don’t know how bad I wished I learned this lesson sooner. The truth is everyone else has problems too and they are not going to walk you through hand and foot. What we all have to do whether we like it or not is pick our own selves up. You are truly the hero in your own story.
The things that you think will be your kryptonite is really going to strengthen you in the end. Because all the things you are going through are happening for a reason. You may not see it now but if you fight long enough you will.
I mean you might not believe me like me ex didn’t believe me, but look at all the most successful people in the world. Most of them went through very hard pasts but those past experiences helped shape who they are today. Now these people are admired by countless people all over the world. They got there by using their experiences and growing from them. They might have not seen why they went through it at the time, but later on when they got famous they could look back and see it happened for a reason.
I hope this gives you all a little more insight. As always thank you all so much for reading and…
I’ll talk to you again tomorrow,