“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”- Buddha
I wasn’t really sure what to write about today, but then it came to me. I want to write today about not letting your past experiences define your new ones. This has really hit me hard lately. As I have told you all I have met somebody and today we made it public that we are a couple.
I’m so happy with him. But in a way that is scary to me, because I have been happy with someone before and have had my heart shattered. In the back of my head I keep thinking “Well this ex left you for another girl. Or this ex just used you. Or this ex hurt you really bad.” My mind keeps replaying past experiences of painful events with guys, but then I remind myself something very important…he is not any of my exes. And it’s not fair to treat him like he is.
He’s already proved to me that he’s not like anyone else I’ve meet before. I already know he’s very special and I’m excited about every day I get to have with him. I could go on gushing on how much this guy already means to me, but I think you all would be like “just get a room.” Haha.
My point is sometimes we hold on to old negative experiences too long that we push away other good experiences that could come our way. I know many of you reading this have been hurt before too. Maybe not in a relationship, but in other ways. Trust me I know how hard that is. I’ve been hurt so much in my life.
But remember just because you have one negative experience doesn’t mean it’s always going to happen that way. For example you might tell a joke and nobody might laugh at it, but then you tell the joke to another group of people and you get a burst of laughter from them all.
The idea behind this all is don’t push away a good opportunity because you are scared it will go bad like it has before. Yes, things can still go bad in your life. That’s just life and that really sucks when bad things happen. But you can’t let the fear of something bad happening rob you from enjoying the present moment.
This has been hard for me to learn this, but meeting him has changed my outlook on this. And I realized that this is true for not only relationships but everything else in life. So gents go ask that girl out! Woman be that independent lady you are because the right guy will accept you for who you are! Don’t be afraid to go to the gym if you’ve been laughed at before. Don’t be afraid to speak up when you felt like you weren’t heard before, I promise one day they’ll be someone out there to hear you!
We’ll have a great night everyone!
Talk to you all tomorrow,