Hi Beautiful Dreamers,
If there’s one thing I’ve dealt with many times in my life it’s bullies. It’s funny as a child I only thought bullies existed when you are growing up, but the truth is that even though, yes, people do usually grow up, that there are still bullies when you grow up too.
When I was a little girl I was bullied over many stupid things. Kids would say all kinds of cruel things to me. Instead of defending myself though I would get so scared and just take it.
Years later I let this same thing go into my adulthood. I would let others boss me around and let them influence how I felt about myself. I even let this concept go into my personal relationships as well and I ended up in so many toxic relationships and would let the guy just run over me. I would give them the power to make me feel like I was nothing.
Many of you may or may not know I’m going through a divorce right now. It has been the most horrible yet the most wonderful process for me. You may think “Wonderful? Are you crazy?” Yes. I might be crazy, but let me explain why.
It’s because for the first time I’m not giving power to the bully. A few days ago my ex said some hateful things about me and at first it brought me down, but then I realized what he said wasn’t true. This made me really think. I always told myself that old quote by the very wise Eleanor Roosevelt “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent” but it wasn’t until that moment I actually used that advice. I realized it didn’t matter what he said. His words didn’t have any power over me unless I gave them both that power. And I decided in that moment..no..I’m not going to give him that power over me ever again.
I then stood up to him. I had nothing to prove to him. As I know it’s wasting energy, but I was proving to myself that I was worth standing up for. That I wasn’t going to sit back and take the hate anymore.
The reason I’m sharing all of this with you all is so maybe you will learn something from what I’m going through. I want you all to know that no matter what you should NEVER I repeat NEVER give anyone the power to make you feel like you are worthless. There will always be bullies out there in this world that want to make you feel small. That get joy in bringing you down. That can’t understand something that is different from them. If they have to be mean and hateful I just want to tell you that is their problem not yours.
As I think about my situation I think about the story from the Bible of David and Goliath. Even if you aren’t a Christian I still believe there’s an important lesson from this. Goliath was a giant and no one could believe someone as small as David could knock down the giant. However even though no one thinks he can do it. He does.
Goliath was a bully and even though David could have played a victim of him like everyone else he didn’t. He stood up to him and proved everyone wrong. We all have that same ability. When someone bullies us we can fall a victim or we can choose to rise above it.
No matter what stage of your life you are in. Stand up for wonderful you! You are worth it. You don’t need to do it to prove the bully wrong. You need to do it to because you are worth standing up for.
Your voice is beautiful and deserves to be heard. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s ok. Just stand firm in yourself and your beliefs. Don’t let the opinions of others bring you down.
Well I hope you all are having a wonderful day!
Until next week, stay beautiful dreamers,