Positively Optimistic Day #39- Shake Your Bum

“I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things… I play with leaves. I skip down the street and run against the wind.” -Leo Buscaglia

From this title you are probably thinking “What the heck Amber?” But just roll with me. This morning I was watching one of my favorite YouTubers and one of her recommendations to be happy is to shake your bum. She said “You can’t be unhappy shaking your bum.”

I was standing up in my room and as she said this I shook my butt. And then I let out a huge giggle. I then thought to myself “this is so stupid, but yet it works.” It’s funny to me how something so simple as shaking your bum can instantly make you feel better.

This made me think though. There are probably a million things we could simply do during the day to make us happier, but we don’t do them. If something as silly as shaking your butt can make you laugh, why can’t we do that everyday? Now you may find other things less silly than shaking your butt around, but whatever you can find no matter how simple..just do it.

Now take my advice with caution. I wouldn’t say go around everywhere shaking your butt. Unless that’s your preference to shake your butt in your bosses office. Then I will say to you my friend “ROCK ON!!” And tell me how it went..and if you still have a job haha.

Besides the point…why do I always go off track? I’m not sure. Oh my gosh guys I’m going off track about going off track…R.I.P my writing career.

OK BESIDES THE POINT…do things during your day that make you smile or laugh. One thing that I do that brings a smile to my face is dancing. Mind you I’m a horrible dancer. But I will dance and sing in my room to music or in my car. I think I’ve talked about putting a show on in my car before. Because I do this like literally everyday…But guys you haven’t lived until you burst out Kelly Clarkson’s “Since You Been Gone.”

It’s like a pick me up therapy session for you. Plus if others are watching you probably are making their day as well. Unless you dabbed in the middle and ended up crashing into their car..then I don’t think they would be laughing.

Today I want to dare all of you reading this to just do one thing big or small that will make you feel happy. You deserve it! And even if you don’t think you deserve it, remember when you are happy it will help others around you be happy as well. Thank all you lovelies for reading!

And catch you all tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #38- Some Things You Cannot Change

When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves. -Viktor E. Frankl

Lately I’ve made a lot of changes. They say when a woman is making changes in her life that is when she changes up her hair. I guess I would say that is true because I got my hair changed. I got my hair colored and for the first time since I was a child I got bangs. I’ll be honest I don’t know how I feel about the bangs but I’m going to work them regardless if I’m not a fan or not.

I’m seeing changes gradually in my life. I’m getting closer to where I want to be. However today I was reminded however there are some things you can’t change. Today I was put into a scary situation because of medical conditions I’ve had since I was a kid. I was stuck in a parking lot unable to move or do anything because of the pain. Luckily I did not pass out like I have done in the past, but I was still scared I was going to and the most scary part about it I didn’t have anyone to call that I knew would help.

I am doing so much better now, but I was really in a crisis earlier. All because of a medical condition. For all of you maybe wondering, yes I have been to doctors about it and it’s usually not that big of a deal if I get it taken care of in time, but today wasn’t one of those days and it hit me hard.

Tonight I was thinking what to write about and it jumped out at me that I talk about things you can change all the time but I don’t talk about things you can’t. We all deal with things we cannot change like I shared with my example. We also can’t change our genes or if we got a horrible haircut haha. But what we can do is just to learn to accept them for what they are and don’t let them stop you from living your life.

If you have read the “Diary of Anne Frank” you will also have a great example of this. Anne was put into a situation she could not change. Her and her family had to hide away during the horrifying Holocaust. Can you even imagine that time? Not just Anne Frank and her family but for all the Jews and people effected by it. Anne Frank was growing up in a time that was devastating yet while she could have just felt sorry for herself the whole time she choose to be productive and write in a diary. And little did she know that this precious diary she wrote in would go down in history and be cherished by millions.

If you out there reading this are going through events in your life you cannot change just make the most of what you can. Maybe you’re under 18 and your home situation isn’t the best. I remember being in your shoes but just plan for the better and know leaving will come quicker than you know it. I want to tell you all you are so strong and whatever it is you face that you cannot change you will get through! You are amazing and just know those things are going to make your success story even stronger! Love you all!

Talk tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #37- Not Getting What You Want

“It was amazing how you could get so far from where you’d planned, and yet find it was exactly were you needed to be.” – Sarah Dessen 

img_6185Lately I’ve been struggling with making a decision. It was because I thought one was really what I wanted. But I’m coming to realize what we think we want isn’t sometimes what we need. I mean I can think of this happening in the past. Like one of the toxic relationships I was in. At the time I was in those relationships I wanted to be in them so bad that I didn’t want to give them up even if it was what was best for me.

The point is sometimes we don’t always know what’s best for us. Recently I’ve had to make a decision about my job and I finally made one which was the one I’d least expect I’d go with. It wasn’t the decision I thought I’d go with to be honest, but I kept feeling like it was the one I needed to make for right now. I kept praying about it and it felt like God was leading me in the opposite direction of where I wanted to go. That’s when it hit me that I’ve gone by my way so many times in my life and have failed, but when I followed his way I could see why he had me do it.

Even with my decision to stay in Florida instead of moving back to Indiana. Every logical sense of it said to move back home. But when I prayed about it I felt a tugging in my heart to stay. I don’t know what else God has planned for me in the future, but even in just this short amount of time he has showed me why I needed to stay. I’ve already learned so many valuable lessons and have grown so much stronger in my faith and as a person.

Even if you aren’t religious I just want to tell you that sometimes the right decisions aren’t the ones we want to hear. In this world we don’t always get what we want right away and guess what that is totally ok with me. I can’t imagine what dark pit I’d be living in if I had gotten some of the things I wanted at the time I wanted them. I can’t imagine it and honestly I don’t want to because I know it wouldn’t have been good.

So I want to install in you all if you are not getting something you want right now. That relationship, the new car, a fancy paycheck, your dream job, ect…just know that this probably means you have something better planned for your future. Most likely after not getting what you want at the time you will find that wasn’t really what you wanted in the first place and look back years later to think how silly that was. Now I’m not saying don’t go after what you want. All I’m saying is don’t be worried if sometimes your path goes in a different direction then you thought it would.

This may sound ridiculous to you, but I’m glad this is true. How boring would life be if everything just always worked out the way it wanted it to? In hindsight it looks great, but when you really think about it, it’s not. It’s kind of like if you inherited a bunch of money because your family is rich. Yeah money is nice. I honestly love money haha. But regardless it’s much more satisfying that if I earned that million dollars rather than if I was just given it. The same goes with our circumstances. If we got everything to work out for us then what would even be the point of trying?

Life is unexpected. Sometimes this means horrible things happen. Yet other times when the unexpected happens, something wonderful will come from it. You may think it’s unfair or be mad at the time if things don’t work out the way you want them to, but if you just go with it I almost can promise you that things will work out better than you thought it would. It won’t be your way. But it will be the best way for you!

Until tomorrow my lovelies,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #36- What I Got

“The truth is that someone somewhere is always dealing with something bigger, more tragic and more heart-wrenching than we are, and it takes a rude awakening for us to realize how blessed we truly are.” –Paul Barratt

It has been no question that this has been a lonely time in my life. I’m down in a state and city where I don’t really know anyone. I don’t even have a family member down here. So it’s been really hard for me to just be like “Yeah I’m so blessed.” When I feel so lonely.

Yesterday I called my dad on the phone and was talking about how I was lonely. Then I realized while I was talking on the phone. Even though many of my friends and family are in a totally different state at least I can call or text them still. I could be completely on my own where I don’t have anyone to call or text, but yet I have many family and friends that are there for me even if we are far away. So yes it gets lonely, but at the end of the day I realize I am not alone. I got amazing people who still got my back even from afar and even more than that even when I can’t reach them I know God is still there.

I know whatever you’re going through in your life may seem tough, but just keep in mind it could always be worse. We all just sit around and complain about things in our lives yet when we just sit down and think about our blessings we realize yes, it still may suck, but at least you still have something. You may have to work really hard sometimes to find your blessings, but I promise that there is at least one thing you are blessed to have.

Like I’ve said in one of my other posts. Some people can’t see. Yet you are able to see this as you are now reading this. That in itself is a blessing. We have so much around us that we could be grateful for so just learn to appreciate those things. For example if your parents are still alive rejoice in that and tell them you love them every single day. There are so many people out there that wish they could talk to their parents one last time, but yet you can’t even shoot them a text.

Today I challenge you all to think of all the good things you have in your life. Big or small. And when you are feeling down about whatever you are going through right now I want you to think of those positive things. If you want make a list even and just read it everyday to remind yourself why you should keep a smile on your face. The important thing is that you just keep your mind on the things you do got and not what you don’t and I promise you having this gratitude will help change your life and even those around you as well.

Chat with you all tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #35- Act Like a Old Man

“In every real man a child is hidden that wants to play.” -Friedrich Nietzsche

Through all of my life I’ve noticed one thing: Most old men know how life should be lived. I was reminded of this as I took a trip to Walmart and saw an old man riding on his cart like a little child. Someone might view this as “Oh how childish.” But that wasn’t my thoughts at all. I saw this guy and immediately thought “This guy knows how to live life.”

Many people compliment how I have this special innocence about me and they are right. I learned a long time ago that the kid spirit in us is so important. If you think about it we are all really kids inside. We just got older. Yet when people grow up they think they have to act or be a certain way and that’s just utter crap. Best believe if I see a swing set I’m going to race you to the swings and see who can swing higher. Not because I need to beat you- although that’s an added bonus but because that is fun.

You want to know why peoples spirits die at such a young age? It’s because they stop viewing life as a child. They stop thinking that anything is possible. They stop doing fun things. They stop being curious. They stop looking at things through a positive lens. I learned years ago from my father though we don’t have to lose that. Some of you know my father is now 71 years old which could honestly be the age of my grandparent. He was actually called my grandfather one time during my childhood which I thought was hilarious, but I didn’t mind because he never acted his age anyway.

When I was a child my dad was literally my best friend. Some of my best childhood memories were of me and my dad just going out and having fun. I remember we would go to this one store all the time and go into the toy section and just press every button on the toys. I didn’t pay attention to those around me but I am sure we annoyed some people with the noise coming from the kids section. Even though that probably happened that didn’t stop my dad from doing what he wanted to do. He still acted like a big kid anyway.

I’ve also seen this is the case for most older men I know. Most of them have a kid like spirit to them as well. Now this isn’t every older guy I’ve met. Some can be very bitter too, but for the majority of them I find are very kid like. I have come to the conclusion that I want to be like an old man who is like a child. That is a very strange sentence. Yet that is how I very much want to live my life. Which means basically I want to be able to be an adult and do adult things, but I never want to lose viewing things as a child does.

There is so much left to discover and enjoy in your life no matter what age you are. So I challenge you all to just go out and find what makes you feel like a child. Something that puts a smile on your face no matter how incredibly dorky it is. Even if it’s pushing every button in the toy section. Be an old man, acting like a young child, because life is way too short not to.

Talk to you all tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #34- Spinning in Circles

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”- Martin Luther King, Jr.

Lately I’ve felt very overwhelmed because there are big decisions I need to make and whatever decision I make will effect my life in either a positive or negative way. The scary part is I don’t know which will will be negative and which one will be positive. All I know is I just really want the positive one. I just really want a sign to what I should do.

It feels like I’m a ball in a casino where I’m just spinning around and around without stopping. And then as soon as I think I’m about to slow down some drunkard comes and pushes it again and there I go spinning again. That is a really strange example so I apologize haha but you get the point. I just feel like I’m spinning without really knowing where I’m going. And that for me is scary.

Don’t get me wrong I love that life is unpredictable. It would be boring if we knew every single thing that was going to happen to us. Yet I just sometimes wish I knew the decision that would lead me to the best path. I’m currently trying to debate which is going to help me out on my life journey/ goals and what is going to hinder it. What is so frustrating about it all though is that it seems like it’s one of those things where it’s like “I’m danged if I do, danged if I don’t”.

I have to remind myself though that I need to trust in God’s way. Whatever way I go I know he will follow me and that will be the best decision. Whether I like it or not I know I need to make a decision. I just have to be willing to take the first step in making the decision. Like the legendary Martin Luther King Jr. said “Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” Which let me tell you from a person who’s fallen on her bum from missing a step on a staircase..it’s not that easy, but I know that the hardest part is just taking that first step.

Even though this is all really hard on me I’m just going to stay positive that no matter what I choose I will learn from it and that it is the right decision for me. If you are all going through something similar know I feel for you and know that I believe in you. We are all going to get through this stumble. Just find comfort in fact that you are never alone. And no matter what choice you make you will get through this! Love you all!

And talk to you again tomorrow,

Amber

Positively Optimistic Day #33- Are You Full of It?

“There are three words I like to repeat to myself: glass half full. Just to remind myself to be grateful for everything I have.”-Goldie Hawn

Today I was driving home from work and I was trying to shield my eyes from the sun as my car has no little shield thing to block it (I forget what the technical name is haha). Anyways I was trying to block out the sun while also trying to keep my rear view mirror on as it is only holding on by duct tape and when it gets hot outside the duct tape starts melting and it falls off.

Some days this may bug me and even make me mad, but for some reason today I just ended up laughing at myself. I mean who else can you think of who risks her life by a rear view mirror taped on and no sun visor thing on your car so you have to look like a sailor searching for land? I can’t think of anybody. If you all know someone throw them my way we might become the best of friends.

My point in this weird story of my life is that sometimes you just got to learn to laugh at stuff. Those situations could have easily made me feel angry, but I choose not to let it effect me that way. Instead I choose to just laugh at my crazy life. I think we all sometimes get in these situations. No, not situations like your rear view mirror being duct taped on, but situations where we could either laugh it off or take it to heart.

I could have gotten angry, but would good would that have done? It just would have made me more frustrated and probably make me concentrate on my driving less to be honest. And that does no good for me. I want you all to think of times in your life where you could also just learn to laugh at it.

Maybe your dog at your lunch for example. Yes, maybe tell him he was a bad boy and punish him a little by having him go to bed or something, but is it worth it letting it ruin your whole night?

“Now I have to cook a brand new dish! Great I needed to go to bed early tonight?”

When instead you could be like…

“Sparky will get his due when he gets gas from all those beans he ate. That silly dog won’t be sleeping in my room tonight.”

This is a very silly example, but you get the point. The same situation, but two very different ways of looking at it. There’s just no need to use all your energy to be angry when it does no good to you or the others around you. Another example of this was this morning. My phone was shut off this morning because silly me forgot to put on my account that my card number switched so it was still linked up to the expired card. I immediately go and try to get it figured out. Then I fall into one disaster after the other.

The website page I needed was “under work” it said. Then I tried calling from the lady I rent off of phone and it said that they couldn’t help me because the office wasn’t open yet. With these two things eliminated from the picture it would mean I would just have to drive from work and back without a phone and that scared me because I wanted a phone in case something would happen. The lady I rent off of then calmed me down and told me great advice like she always does and said “stop worrying about things you cannot change.”

After that I just let it be until after work then I immediately got it turned back on because you know how much we all love our phones haha. But anyways getting back to the lesson; she was so right. I was getting so mad earlier I could feel my skin boiling. I let a little situation like that with my phone make me so outraged. When I could have simply just laughed at the whole situation. I can’t emphasize this enough that it’s all about perspective guys.

So is your glass half full or half empty? It’s all for you to decide. I encourage you all to be that optimistic because life is too short to live it being too serious all the time. We are all human and do things or get put in crazy situations. But remember two people can go through the same exact thing and take it two completely different ways. Today I challenge you all to challenge your perspective instead of a serious one to a humorous one. When appropriate of course! There are some times we do need to not laugh at situations, but with the ones that you can, just do yourself a favor and giggle. You deserve it!

Talk to you all tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️