“It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Do it this way. Do it that. Go with what your taught to do. Don’t dare to do anything different…What a bunch of poop!

Most people think that they have to think, act, believe, and live in a certain way. They become so used to societies way of doing everything. It’s almost as if everyone falls into a pattern that they most do everything like those who come before them and if they dare to do something a different way it’s no good.

I’m here to tell you all to screw the idea of having to do things the way everyone else does. All the best people in the world dared to do something different from everyone else.

I feel like this topic fits perfectly for today because today is the 1 year of my cousin Loris death. As I have said so many times she was always her own person. She always did things her own way and didn’t fall into the ‘normal’ way of doing things.

I remember when I was over at her house one day she was listening to Elvis while cooking food. I thought that was the coolest thing because she obviously didn’t grow up in the Elvis generation, but she still listened to him simply because she loved his music. To be honest I see so many people just listen to music because they feel like it’s up to date. Some people even treat good music like it expires after a certain period. Which I can’t even begin to tell you how much that bugs me. Back to what I was saying though many people are like that, yet that didn’t stop Lori from listening to the music she wanted to listen to.

I want to throw a question at you all: Why are you not doing what you want to do? Is it because of others opinions? Is it because of the way you were raised? Is it because you are scared? Is it because it’s never been done before? Is it because you don’t think you have what it takes? I want you all to really think what’s stopping you from doing things your way.

We all fall into this trap that things must be done a certain way, but that theory is total garbage. There is always more than one way of doing things. So why not do it your own way then? Why do you have to be like everyone else on the planet? Guess what that is? Boring. That is so freaking boring!

If you want to dress like it’s the 40s; why not?! There’s no rule that says you have to dress for a certain decade. If you want to get married early on or years later after being together with someone..who cares it’s your relationship. If you want to go back to school after you had all your kids..why can’t you? We tell ourselves we have to do things the way everyone else does, but it’s all lies. I’m telling you all…DARE TO BE DIFFERENT!

Think about what you really want out of life and just do it in your kind of way. There is no instruction manual that says for example “Amber you have to do this certain thing before you can do that.” No. That is total crap. Life is meant to be lived, and by living it that means you are going to do things your way. Yes, you are going to make your own mistakes, but you are also going to make your own wonderful discoveries.

I can see this already in my own life. I stayed in Florida when most people my age would have gone back home. I dared to be different though. Yes, it’s still so scary to me. Some days I still feel like packing up my bags and running back home, but I know that I’m doing this all for a reason, and even in the short amount of time that I’ve done this for I’ve already learned so much. Yet I wouldn’t have learned half the things or gotten to experience many things that I have if I hadn’t chosen a different path from everyone else. So I just want to leave you all with..go your own way and never look back!

Much love and best wishes,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

“Talent without working hard is nothing.”-Cristiano Ronaldo

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just go through life and get everything we wanted/ needed without lifting a finger? Like you were on a vacation 24/7. You could do anything without having to worry about going to work in the morning.

As much as that sounds lovely I beg to differ there is greatness in work. Especially work that you are passionate for. So many of us tend to think of work as such a horrible thing. We go to work and bust our butts for a job we don’t care about and repeat that vicious cycle everyday.

No wonder we hate the idea of “working” when many times you are doing something completely different then what you want to be doing. We all then complain where our lives are yet we don’t leave a job that we don’t like for one we do.

We then start associating work as a bad thing. When in reality work can be such a good thing. I’ve already learned in my young life how valuable work can really be even with the jobs I can’t stand. They have taught me that things are much more valuable when you have worked hard for them.

For example you may want that new video game that’s coming out but you don’t have the money for it. You then work extra shifts at work to earn more money for it. There’s then a since of pride that you get when you worked hard to earn enough money to buy that product.

Working has also believe it or not really helped shape me. You can learn so much from any job you do. Even at my first job at McDonalds I got so much experience. I got to learn how to do things I’ve never done before like use a register to even making coffee (yes I had never made coffee before this job stop judging me haha). I also got to meet many different kinds of people. Unfortunately I learned through that job that people could be so mean. I remember before the job I was under the impression that all older people were nice. I was soooo wrong! Don’t get me wrong there was many lovely senior citizens, but many times they could be the rudest customers.

Today I challenge you all to view work differently whether that mean to quit your job you hate for one you’d love or to learn to see the value in the one you have now. Either way challenge what you can learn from working and how those things can help you grow over all and teach you things you’ve never learned before. Also take pride in your job because almost every job out there is supposed to be helping someone out there whether you work in a restaurant and your helping others by getting them food or you are the mayor of the town making sure others are kept safe. Our jobs in some shape or form are to help benefit others so also keep that in mind.

Write again tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

“Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.”- Gilda Radner

Sometimes I feel like I’m in an AA meeting except it’s about my life…

*Stands up*

“Hello my name is Amber and have no idea what I am doing.”

*Sits back down*

*One person in the back claps*

To tell you the truth that’s kind of the story of my life, and honestly I feel like it’s everyone’s story. We are all just thrown into this life when we are born and have to go through many trials and errors to learn what to do. Just like when we first begin walking.

We look at all the people around us walking so one day we decide as babies “well I want to walk too.” We just decide what we want and go after it. We start attempting to walk even though we don’t have a clue about it.

I feel like this example can be applied to almost anything in our life. At one time everything that you have experienced was new to you. The first time you smelled a flower, the first time you fell, the first time you sent a text message, the first time you talked to someone, the first time you kissed a person etc. The point is we really don’t know an experience until we go through it ourselves. Until we go through something we really don’t have a clue what we are getting into.

Another example is parenthood. You could prepare by reading all of the baby books, take all of the parenting classes, get the greatest advice from people who already have kids (which is all great), but nothing really can prepare you completely for parenthood. Each kid is different and you will be having to parent based on your kids needs and through trial and error.

Lately I’ve been trying new experiences and I’ve been realizing I really don’t know what I’m getting into trying them out. I either find that the experience is not what I had hoped or that it exceeds my expectations. Yes, it sucks when you end up having a sucky experience, but at least when you try you will learn. Like if you try a new food out. You may hate it or you could love it, but if you end up hating it at least you know you don’t like it so you don’t have to ever eat it again. Every experience we have is a new opportunity and can be a learning experience for us if we let it be.

What I want to leave you all with today is to just go out and try new experiences. Be your inner child and discover things for the first time. It’s truly amazing all that you will discover if you just decide to try something new. Don’t worry about not knowing what you’re doing trying new things out. We all have been there with trying anything. But just go take the bull by it’s horns and go learn about it already!

Thank you all for reading!

Until tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

“People should never apologize for who they are, and they should never hide who they are. Hating yourself is so 2011.”- Ross Mathews

Hey everyone! Today’s blog post is going to start with an apology. I had been so good about posting everyday like I had intended for a very long time. Recently if you all have stayed following me on this journey I had missed 2 days (one was yesterday). I have had some circumstances come in my life that I had to deal with. I just wanted to say I’m sorry for not sticking to what I had originally intended. Believe it or not it can be very challenging trying to write a blog while you have so much going on in your life.

I feel bad about missing those few days, but through writing this blog I have come to terms I’m not perfect and that’s okay. I want to let you all know I am still going to try to write every single day, but since it is a full year I’m doing this for there might be some times when too much is going on and I can’t write. As much as I hate that I think it’s much better than writing a blog post and half- assing it. That’s not fair to anyone.

I just wanted to say this to you all so you will understand if I might miss a day here and there. However; I’m still going to try with all my power to not do that. But if it does happen I’m not going to hate on myself for it.

With all of this being said I wanted to write about something that kind of contradicts what I just said and that is never be sorry for who you are. Which is different than making a mistake and apologizing like I did up above. What you shouldn’t be sorry for is being yourself.

We all have faults. We all have problems. We all have different tastes. We all have different passions. We all see the world differently. We are all unique.

Now I can say all of this without a doubt. I genuinely believe we are all different and we shouldn’t be sorry because of our differences. We should embrace them.

Many times in my past though I would apologize to others for who I was. I’d feel ashamed of the person I was and didn’t want to embrace the things that made me stand out. Now I embrace these things to the fullest. I know darn well I’m not like anyone else and I’m not going to apologize for what makes me, me. And neither should you!

My challenge for all of you today is to go out and not apologize for who you are. No matter how incredibly weird you are. If you love beanie babies share that with the world! Don’t be afraid to stand out from everyone else. That’s what you were born to do. We were all born to go on different paths. So embrace it lovelies..never apologize!

Until tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

“We are dying from overthinking. We are slowly killing ourselves by thinking about everything. Think. Think. Think. You can never trust the human mind anyway. It’s a death trap.”- Anthony Hopkins

When you see the term overthinking in the dictionary I feel like my picture should be right by it. Because if I’m the queen of anything it has to be that. My overthinking is so bad that I could spend so much time overthinking why I overthink.

As you probably know already overthinking can be really bad. I’d like to say sometimes it’s a good thing. I feel like my habit of overthinking plays a lot into my creativity which is the thing I love about myself. If I had to name one thing I love most about myself it would have to be that I’m a creative person.

However; overthinking has also been one of the worst things in my life. It’s like one little bad thing could happen to me and my mind could make it way worse than what it actually was. Or I could be in a great mood then think of a bad memory and just keep thinking about it until the point I’m in such a bad mood.

And don’t even get me started on the “what ifs”. The what ifs are the worst because you over think every bad scenario that could happen in the future. What if I did this? What if this happened?? What if the same thing happens?

Overthinking can really be either a gift or a curse. Depending on how it is used. I want to challenge you all today to try to stop overthinking the bad things in your life and focus that energy on things that matter. Focus your overthinking on things that will benefit you not hinder you. Use it’s power for the good instead of the evil.

Until tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

“There comes a point in your life when you realize how quickly time goes by, and how quickly it has gone. Then it really speeds up exponentially. With that, I think you start to put a lot of things into context; you start to see how huge the world is, and really, the universe.”-Michael Keaton

100 days of this seems unreal. It was 100 days ago I decided to make a change in my life. Oddly enough it feels like it was just yesterday when I made that decision. I didn’t realize back then how much my life would be changed in just a short amount of time.

Seeing how the time has flew by and how so much has happened in that time just really makes me think about how precious time really is to us all. How each moment in our lives really do matter. Life truly goes by in such a blink of an eye and before you know it it’s all over. So that’s why I want to live every day I have here to the fullest.

I want to challenge you all today to do the same. Live your life to the fullest because we are all never truly guaranteed tomorrow. Whatever you want just have the courage to go after it and don’t give up. You don’t want to look back over your life and always wonder what could have been. So go out and start to live you beautiful people! I love you all! Have a great day!

Talk again tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

“No such thing as the right time, situation or place. You have all it takes. Just dig within. Exhume all the greatness inside of you and transform the world with an inexhaustible drive and without fear of limitations.”-

Chinonye J. Chidolue

As you guys know by now I am late with another blog again. I was working on it yesterday and I had an emergency come up last night that I had to drop everything and go. So I hope you all understand. Needless here is my blog post from yesterday!

Almost 100 days of this guys! Can you believe it?! It’s been so amazing to see where this journey has taken me so far. I owe a lot to this blog to be honest. If it wasn’t for this blog I don’t know where I would be today. And I don’t think I would be doing what I’m about to tell you all..

If I’ve learned anything so far from this journey it’s that you need to go after the things you want. You can’t just sit around waiting. This blog is a testimony to that. I stopped with the “I’ll do that later” and I decided to write it.

At the point when I first started the blog I had recently lost friends that were there for me, I was all alone in a city/state I didn’t know, I didn’t have a reason for staying except I felt God wanted me to stay, I had switched from a job I’d been at for about a year, my love life sucked, I didn’t have any idea what I wanted to do with my life, and etc. you get the picture. My life wasn’t where I wanted it at all.

I would have never imagined at the time I would make new friends (plus all of you followers who are my friends), find a purpose, feel more at home in a place I don’t know, be in a relationship with an incredible guy, feel more confident in my own skin, grow happier, and so much more! To add to the addition I got offered that job I talked about in my previous blog and I’m going to take it. It’s scary because I don’t know how many hours I’ll get a week with it and it’s a reduced pay, but what’s worth it, is that it’s something I really want to do.

I’ve worked so many jobs where I didn’t feel purpose. I didn’t feel like I belonged there. But with this job for the first time I feel like I’d be doing something that would bring me closer to my goals I have in life. I’d feel more purpose and I honestly care about that so much more than the pay.

I’m taking a huge jump doing this all. It’s really scary because I don’t know where it’s going to take me, but at the same time I’m very excited too. I hope that also by me taking this incredibly scary jump in my life that it inspires all of you to go after what you want. Don’t let anything stop you!

My life has changed so much for the better because I made conscious decisions in my life to go after what I wanted. I’ve learned after years of waiting around that no one is going to hand you something. If you are unhappy with something in your life no one has the power to change it but you and God. But even God wants you to take action in your life.

It’s ultimately your choice. You could sit around being miserable with your life or you can make the decision to change it for the better. You may think “No Amber you are all wrong bad things just happen to me.” And I’m just gonna be all up in your face telling you that “bad things happen to everyone, but it’s your choice how you let it effect you. And by choosing negatively you are just going to attract more bad things your way.”

I know this from experience. I’ve gone through a lot and for a long time I just had a pity party for myself. I felt sorry for myself and I told myself only bad things happened to me. So guess what happened to me? Bad things came into my life.

If I can change my life then I know for a fact all of you can as well. You just have to make a decision to go after things instead of sitting in the side lines. You may be waiting for that perfect timing, but I’m here to tell you there’s no such thing. The perfect time is when you make up your mind that you want something and just go after it. Tell yourself ready, set, and go.

Talk to you all again later today haha,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️