Do You Know Who You Are?

Hey Beautiful Dreamers,

This morning I woke up and was scrolling through social media and then started feeling insecure with myself comparing myself to others. I then had a thought that really stuck with me and that was “Why are you comparing yourself to others? Don’t you know who you are? You are the sh!t.”

I feel like most of us (especially woman) can relate to this in some shape or form. With the average person spending most of their day on social media I think it’s almost impossible to not have felt that at some point. You are looking at these people you feel are prettier than you are or more successful. You then take a look at your own life and feel like complete garbage.

I want to ask you all the same question I asked myself this morning “Do you know who you are?” I don’t know you, but I’m completely sure that you are a lot more then you give yourself credit for. You are so focused on other people that you forget all that you’ve accomplished and how uniquely beautiful you are in your own way. We were all not born to be a clone of everyone else. We were born to be ourselves. We are all giving a special opportunity to stand out in our own way.

If no one has told you today you are beautiful, awesome, and are doing a great job. You are rare jewel in this world so it’s time that you start realizing that. DO NOT be any means undervalue yourself. No one is better than you. I don’t care if they are a famous movie star or own several cars or have the ‘perfect’ body. You are just as good as anyone out there.

Instead of feeling envious of other people be happy for them. And go do whatever makes you feel beautiful and happy. Our time is so valuable and it’s such a waste if we use it being jealous and putting down other people in order for us to feel better about ourselves. Instead send love energy to others in the world and expect love energy sent back to you. We all deserve that!

The next time you start comparing yourselves to others and feel bad about yourself I challenge you to remind yourself you are the shit and that you are valuable beyond belief.

As always thank for reading dreamers,

Much love Amber

Setting a Target

Hey Dreamers,

Today I want to talk about setting a target, and no I did not say ‘shopping at Target.’ Shout out to everyone who loves shopping at Target (like yours truly) though — you all are the real MVPs. The target I am referring to though is the one of what you want to accomplish in your life.

Now you may be thinking “Well duh, I already know what I want in life.” I want to challenge that idea though. Are you really setting a specific thing in life you want to accomplish and working towards that or are you more like what I’ve done in my life and throwing arrows at multiple targets? I love that I have multiple interests in life. I feel like that keeps my life interesting and helps me grow; however, when I have too many interests that can also be a distraction. What I mean by that is sometimes I’ll invest energy here or there with various that I don’t sit down and think which future goal of mine I really want to invest the most energy in.

An example of this for me is that one of the things I really want to accomplish in my life is to write books. It’s a wonderful goal/ dream; however, in the current moment I haven’t done anything to move me towards doing that. In the back of my mind I have this clear idea of things I want to do, but the problem is I’ll be like “I’ll do that one day” or I’ll take the steps towards it for a few moments “when I feel like it” instead of deciding that right now I am going to decide that I am going to do it and set steps of how I can get there and decide how long I approximately I want to take to accomplish this goal.

In one of my favorite podcasts the host says this quote that really stuck with me and that is “where focus goes, energy flows.” That quote is true in any area of life, but especially when it comes to making our dreams come true. If our focus is all over the place then the energy is not going to go to what is most important to you it’s going to be scattered all over the place with no clear direction.

This is why it’s so important to decide what really is the most important things in your life and once you decide that you can decide you will focus more on that and prioritize it over other things going on in your life. For example, for me instead of watching television for a few hours a day I could spend one of those hours working on a chapter of a book instead. If I don’t give myself that clear direction though I will just continue watching Hulu for a few hours instead of moving towards a goal that is really important to me.

It’s simply deciding what you want, writing down the steps you can take to accomplish it, and then taking action. This is all easier said then down, but I promise you once you focus in on that target your trying to hit you will see change in your life and be way more likely to accomplish anything you want in life.

My challenge for you all today Dreamers is to write down a few important goals that mean the most to you and then write down the steps you can take each day that will put you a little closer each and every day of reaching those goals.

Like always Dreamers thank you for listening and go set that target,

Amber

Being Happy in the Now

Hey Beautiful Dreamers,

Lately I have really been trying to plan for my future. Trying to go after a future I will be proud of. I love being able to set goals and accomplish them; however, that being said sometimes when I think too far in the future I forget to enjoy the here and now. I think many of us can be like that where we keep dreaming of creating a bigger and better life for ourselves. I think that is a fantastic then to do, but I also think while we are on the journey to reach those goals that we should enjoy the process.

I realized recently I haven’t really been doing this. Sometimes I think of all I haven’t accomplished and how better I wish my life was that I truly don’t appreciate everything that I am currently blessed with which is a lot even though I don’t see that sometimes. The fact that I’m healthy and can sit here typing this blog post is something to be grateful for. All around us are little blessings; however, we usually go throughout our day taking all these things for granted.

Sometimes I’ll be in my car and just have to remind myself to be grateful for my car being functional. As I’ve had cars go out on me multiple times and have no air conditioning in them, but this car hasn’t given me many issues and has functional ac (which in Florida is a life saver). I can also do cool things like link up my music from my phone to play by bluetooth in the car. Which was like the greatest thing in my life when I bought my car. That being said sometimes I don’t tend to think how blessed I am to have it, and now I try to really take time to think about how grateful I am for it.

I’m sure many of us can find similar examples in our day to day lives of things we take for granted. Whether it be things, relationships with people, or our health. There is so much that we can be happy about in the here and now. If we don’t practice gratitude in our everyday lives do we really think we’ll be happy when we accomplish the goals we have for ourselves? We might temporary be happy, but it is not going to stay permanent. Our brains will constantly tell ourselves this story of ‘I’ll be happy when I get this’ and then when you get that and are not happy we convince ourselves that something new will make us happy. We will keep going through this vicious cycle until we can learn to appreciate what we have in this moment. Right here and right now.

If you have running water..be grateful. If you have a bed to sleep tonight..be grateful. Many others do not and yet we think our lives suck because we don’t live in that mansion and don’t have the newest Iphone. If you want those kind of things that is great, but what I’m trying to say is don’t let those things define your happiness. We find happiness when we stop for a minute and reflect the little things in our everyday life. Like a sunny day or being loved unconditionally by your pet. There is something to be happy about for you today. You just got to look up and find it.

Thanks for listening dreamers until next blog post,

Amber

Your Time is Valuable

Hey there Beautiful Dreamers,

Time. Such a simple word, but what a significant meaning. As a child it sometimes feels like time takes forever. You keep checking the clock and you swear that it was the exact same time 15 minutes ago. Then you grow up and it’s like time took many shots of expresso and is now going at an extremely fast pace.

As I keep aging the more I come to realize how valuable our time really is. This is why now I have come to a point in my life where I want to spend my time doing the things I love and spending it with the people who truly care about me. Life is too short in my opinion not to.

I find myself a lot lately trying to think about where I spend my time. Maybe it’s due to the fact that I just turned 27 and it’s hitting me that my 30s are right around the corner. Not that you are that old in your 30s, but for me it’s been a real awakening to see how fast almost 30 years has gone by. In a way this has been a motivator to me to get stuff done that I was before putting off because I told myself I could just do it later.

I am proud that I’m really focusing on the things I want to accomplish in life. I have been working on this blog, for example, more often. I have also been really practicing my art and photography too. All these things I have done on and off during my life, but at some point they would fall on the back burner and I’d just tell myself that I would do it later when I had more of my life together. It then hit me like a ton of breaks..I’ve been waiting for this perfect moment for everything to happen in my life that I avoid actually doing what I need to do to get the ball rolling.

I think most of us can relate to this to some extent. We procrastinate and wait for this what we think is the “right moment” that really doesn’t exist. After listening to podcasts and interviews with the most successful people most of them say there was never a perfect moment to begin, and most of them admit they may have even stunk at whatever they did at first, but guess what they got successful by putting the time and practice in it.

I think many of us have this illusion with social media as well. We think we’ll be famous by posting this one video and going viral. With modern technology we are used to getting what we want in an instant. I say this as I have been always a huge fan of technology; however, I think that since my generation and generations after have been raised with having many things just given to them that we develop this lazy mentality in a way that the older generations didn’t have. A good example of this is when people used to write research papers for school they used to have to go to the library and go through many books to find what they were looking for; however, now we have all this information by going to Google and not even having to leave our home. The older generations had to usually develop a hard work ethic when my generation for example didn’t have to work as hard to get some things. I am in no way saying my generation is lazy (I know the most amazing people with great work ethic that are my age) what I am saying though is that we weren’t taught always at a young age that we had to work hard for what we wanted. I can honestly say that during my childhood I would think all this success would be just handed to me.

Now as an adult I can see how silly that seems. Like of course you have to put in the work to make something happen. Back then I really didn’t understand the work I needed to put in and just how valuable my time was. I’m grateful that I’ve learned about work ethic and time management as I have gotten older. That being said I am not perfect at it and still need to work on it. I am so much better than I used to be though.

I have also noticed the value of my time when it comes to my relationships. I am now very picky about who I spend my time with. Now I only have room for people who are my real friends/family and treat me with the same respect I treat them with. I also try to now meet people who I also think will bring value to my life as I hope to bring value to them as well.

For much of my life I spent it trying to be there for people who weren’t there for me, or influenced my life in a negative manner. To be honest it’s really in this last year that I’ve realized that I don’t want to spend the precious time I have left here on this Earth trying to get people to see my worth or trying to drag them out of a dark place while I let them drag me into that. I realized I want to fill my life with people and experiences that add to my life, and I encourage you dreamers to do the same. Realize you deserve to have people in your life that really care about you and have experiences in your life to make your dreams come true.

Make the most out of your valuable time! You deserve the best. You may have to put in hard work and have to let go of some relationships in your life, but it will be worth it in the end. It will be worth it because that time spent will move you closer to the life you want to have.

Have a beautiful night dreamers,

Your friend Amber

You Are What You Believe

Hey you Beautiful Dreamers you,

I’m excited to share a topic with you that has changed my life around for the better and honestly keeps changing it for the better the more I practice it. The concept is who you are is a reflection of how you feel about and see yourself.

For a good portion of my childhood and pretty much until high school I had such a low perspective of myself. I saw myself as a useless nobody, who no one liked, and got outcasted. As you can guess this way I saw myself effected my who life. I was young and didn’t realize at the time that the way I viewed myself was a huge factor on how others viewed me.

I really developed a victim approach to my life. It wasn’t until some people noticed it that I started to realize that I could control how I viewed myself. Fast forward..I began to learn about the law of attraction. If you don’t know what law of attraction is it’s basically that like attracts like. That the things in your life that you focus on and think about over time create your reality.

When I began to learn about this idea it gradually began to change my life. When I started to challenge the ideas I had about myself I saw massive change in my life. I remember I really put this idea into motion in my early 20s when I made my first dreamboard. I’ve mentioned it before in another blog post and the reason I mention it so much is because it’s when I started seeing my life transform.

The reason why I think this had such a significant impact in my life is because it had me challenge how I saw myself. I started associating with that new identity that I created on my vision board instead of the old identity I had for myself. I would do things that my new identity would do like work out for example. When I started changing my old habits to new habits that I wanted my new identity to have I saw massive change in my life.

My advice to anyone wanting to make a change in their life is to see yourself with that change and take little steps at a time that, that person would do. For example, if you wanted to be an artist. Ask yourself what an artist would do and how they would act. Then start coming up with things in your everyday life that would be like that ideal artist version of yourself. You could for example set an amount of time each day to sketch or look for other artists work to help inspire you. Small things that you can do over time that will eventually become a habit and help shift your identity.

Decide who you want to be, believe it and act accordingly to it. That’s really all you have to do. The ability to live the life you want and be the person you want to be lies within yourself.

Have a great night Dreamers & dream beautiful dreams,

Amber

I Just Called to Say ‘I Love You’

Hey Beautiful Dreamers,

I am going to be showing my age, but do you all recall the song “I Just Called to Say I Love You” by Stevie Wonder? That song is replaying in my head over and over as it goes right along with the topic I’m going to be talking about today.

A few days ago we lost a comedy legend Bob Saget. I was on break at work and when I scrolled through social media I saw that he had passed away. I was in complete shock and disbelief. Yes, I know I never knew the man personally, but hearing about his death really saddened me. Full House was one of my favorite shows as a kid. I loved the show so much that when I was in elementary school I would wake up at 4 a.m. before school started to watch Full House when the episodes came on at Nick at Night.

Like many people around the world I fell in love with the characters in Full House. I loved how they were an untypical kind of family; however, it somehow worked really well. The characters were all relatable in some way and the lessons they went through made you feel like you really bonded with them. Like in a way you were part of the family.

I remembered that feeling when I heard the news of Bob’s passing. Even though I did not know him his character in that show had such an influence on me as I’m sure it did for many people. As I was scrolling social media I read what all his close friends were saying about him. One thing that stuck with me the most is that all these people in some way, shape, or form all said along the same things such as he always told people that he loved them constantly and that he had a way of making everyone feel special.

This whole circumstance really made me ponder about how life is so freaking short and that we never know when our time is up. All we can do is to make the most out of the time that we have. I kept thinking about how even though his life ended shorter than we expected that he spent most of it making other people feel awesome. This really hit me hard as I turned 27 yesterday and I just keep thinking about how fast my life has gone already, and that with the rest of my time here I want to do what Bob did and make sure others know they are loved and how truly special they are.

Hopefully I do not die anytime soon (haha), but when that time eventually comes around I hope my life leaves others feeling like they were so special to me and that I somehow made a difference in their life. I want to spend the rest of my life telling others how much I love them and how much they mean to me. I want to live my life as fully as possible, and I want to inspire others to do the same.

Back to tie this all to the beginning of this post. When was the last time you just called someone to tell them you loved them dreamers? When was the last time you hugged someone? How have you made others in your life feel special? These are the questions I’ve been really asking myself here lately, and the truth be told I need to be doing better about it myself. I can do better, and from now on I am going to do better to do all those things.

So what are you waiting for dreamers? Go call/ message/ mail/ or go see someone and let them know that you love them.

Thanks for your time dreamers,

Amber

Body Positivity: My Opinion About Rebel Wilson’s Interview About Her Weightloss

Hey Beautiful Dreamers,

I am kind of late to this, but today I watched Rebel Wilson’s video about her weightloss. Listening to this interview I felt very inspired to write my opinion about it. As someone who has also lost a lot of weight I find what Rebel is saying in the interview extremely relatable. She commented that she knows what it’s like to be invisible and to have no one open the door for you. When I heard her say that I immediately thought back to before my weightloss and how I was treated differently as well.

The interview brought up a great point that you can accomplish so many things as a woman, but it doesn’t get the same amount of praise as when woman lose weight or dress up. It’s sad to think that we get more recognized more as woman for what we look like than our abilities. It’s no wonder that many of us woman put what we look like on this high pedestal when that’s what we are expected of.

I was talking to a friend the other day and we were talking about this topic as well. I told her that at some points when I was younger I felt like I wanted to harm myself just because I didn’t look how I thought I should. I would call myself all kinds of mean words and things because of my appearance. I also thought that after losing all the weight I would be happy with what I looked like…wrong..I wasn’t. If anything when I first lost the weight it made me even more insecure. I would just keep finding more flaws that I saw in myself besides just my weight. It wasn’t until I learned to love myself for who I am (no matter what I look like) that I started feeling more confident.

I love the message that Rebel is putting out there for young woman. She is sending out the message to be as healthy as possible, but also you can be beautiful no matter how much you weigh or what you look like. I think that message is extremely powerful. I also do my best to try to tell woman the same thing when they tell me they want to lose weight. I tell them do it feel better and be healthy, but never do it to try to prove to others your worth. If you do it for others validation it will just be an endless cycle that will drive you crazy — trust me from someone who knows. If you do it for anyone else you are never going to be happy that way.

This all being said I don’t think there’s harm in wanting to look your best for yourself as long as it’s not for the wrong reasons. I think when we feel good about what we look like on the outside it helps us also build our confidence, but that doesn’t mean you have to be a size 0 or look like a famous model to be happy with what you look like. There are so many uniquely made woman out there that are so beautiful because they feel comfortable in their own skin. They look beautiful to themselves and no one else’s opinion of them matters because they already know that they are beautiful and valuable.

I really want to applaud Rebel Wilson for being a good influence on young woman. I think it’s wonderful that she is telling woman that they are worthy no matter what weight they are and also inspiring people to take care of their health. I feel like it’s hard being famous and having all this influence over people, but I think she is doing a fantastic job of doing what’s best for her health while still continuing to be a great role model for body positivity. Also, sidenote I didn’t know she had a law degree and is also going to direct a movie. I think all that she is accomplishing is absolutely epic and deserves to be praised. Great job Rebel! Keep up your beautiful woman empowerment!

To all the lovely ladies or men reading this I hope you know just how truly wonderful and special you are. Let no one ever make you feel less than.

Have a wonderful day dreamers,

Your friend Amber

A Lesson from 2021

Hey Beautiful Dreamers,

Happy New Year everyone! At the end of a year I always try to take a chance to reflect on a lesson I’ve learned that year. For me, personally, 2021 was filled with a bunch of lessons. If I had to pick one lesson that really resonated with me this year is to stop settling for less.

I think most of us can relate when I say that sometimes you settle for less than you deserve. This past year I’ve had to take a hard look at the kind of toxic things I was letting in my life and why I was allowing it. In particular I was allowing toxic people into my life and letting them treat me in a way I didn’t deserve. This has been a continuous cycle in my life. I’ve let in many people who have come into my life and let their opinions about myself define who I was. I then dug in deep and asked myself why I kept allowing these negative people in my life that would bring me down. I then came to the conclusion I was doing this because I couldn’t see my own sense of worth.

I wasn’t confident in who I was so I sought out validation from others to help prove I was worthy, but as you can guess that didn’t work. I was allowing people in my life to hurt me over and over again just so I could have just some sense of validation that I was enough. I knew in my mind that others opinions shouldn’t matter and that I should feel complete on my own. Knowing this and actually applying it to my life was easier said than done.

It wasn’t until this year that I really put what I knew in my mind and applied it to my life. This is going to sound really lame but what helped me really put this lesson into motion was watching Gilmore Girls. Yes, you heard me right. I started putting this into practice while watching Gilmore Girls. You may be asking yourself right now “How on Earth?” Let me explain. If you haven’t watched Gilmore Girls before it centers around a mother/ daughter relationship. The daughters name is Rory and I adored this character. I loved that her character was strong-willed, smart, and beautiful inside/ out. I found her determination inspiring, and I felt like I could really relate to her character.

Then as the series goes on we see Rory start to downfall. You see this downfall mainly when Rory starts dating and making poor decisions. I then see this character I cherished so much not reach her true potential because of some man or because of the bad decisions she was making. I then thought about my own life and how my life was incredibly similar. I realized I was mad at Rory’s downfall as a person, because I had done the same downfall in my own life. I gave up things that made me special and my own values for toxic relationships with people or because I went down a dark path.

Something in me just snapped when I came to this realization. Why did I want to give up what made me special for some stupid reason? I realized I didn’t want to sacrifice myself anymore and that I wanted to live my life to my full potential. I didn’t want to be like Rory and stay in that downfall anymore I wanted to go back to my roots of what made me, me. And that I wanted to see my value on my own instead of seeking it somewhere else.

This is when I realized I needed to cut things out of my life if it didn’t serve me value. During 2021 I cut out some relationships and old bad habits out of my life. When I did I started valuing myself in a whole new way. Now as I go on into 2022 I’m going to continue valuing myself and only bring in people and experiences that bring me value and also see my value. I hope that you too, dreamers, will also see the value in your beautiful self and not settle for anything less than you deserve!

Much love and happy new year,

Amber

Anything is Possible

Hey Beautiful Dreamers,

The other day I was out with a friend and I was telling her how when I was younger I’d tell myself one day I was going to take myself to Disney when I got older all by myself. Some might say this was a common dream to many kids; however, for me it had a different kind of meaning. With my living conditions as a child I knew that my family would never be able to take me. I then set the intention as a young child that I was going to take myself and guess what I did. Who knew that years later I would not only be able to take myself there, but now I work for the company.

The reason I am telling you this story is because I know firsthand that anything is possible. I have seen this countless times in my own life. If I set an intention to do something in my life and made my mind up that I would do it, then by golly I would do it. A few years ago before I got a job at Disney and lost 60 lbs of my weight I made a vision board that had those goals on there. That vision board was a daily reminder of what I wanted to accomplish. It helped me keep focus on what was important to me. If you have never made a vision board before I highly recommend it.

It’s incredible to look back now at 26 and see how all those things I put on my dream board in my earlier twenties came true. It sounds extremely cliche and overused to say that quote “anything is possible if you believe”, but I’m here to tell you that quote again. Anything in your life that you want can come true if you just believe and go after it.

I know from my own life experience that if I believe it in my heart that I can do something, and I put in the work I will achieve whatever I want. There’s absolutely no doubt in my mind. I think many people just don’t believe they have what it takes or think their dreams are too ambitious. If that is you please listen to me when I say all you need to accomplish your dreams already lives inside of you.

I’m here shouting at you right now that if you have a dream in your heart — go for it. You may have obstacles to overcome and people trying to say your dream isn’t possible. Go for it anyway. We all get this one life here on Earth and if we don’t seize the moment and go after the things we want then one day we will look back and wish that we did. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be that person. When I look back on my life I want to say I lived. I don’t want to look back on my life and see all the opportunities I had go by.

Take a leap dreamers, you got this. I believe in you!

Best Wishes,

Amber

You Never Know What Someone Else is Going Through

Hello Beautiful Dreamers,

I’m sorry it has been a hot minute since my last post. It’s sometimes a struggle to come on here and write all the time when I work two jobs and have other stuff going on, but I really want to make it a goal to come on here and write more because writing is where I feel like the best version of myself. I want to be able to continue to share that version of myself while hopefully helping those who read what I write in the process. Anyways, enough with all of that…let’s get on to the topic I want to talk about today and that topic is we don’t know what someone else is going through.

I was reminded that this lesson is important because of an event that happened to me the other day. The other day I picked up at a different work location which meant I worked with several people I didn’t know. For some reason while I worked there a lady kept pointing out all I was doing wrong in her eyes without really giving me a chance to explain what was actually going on. I will be honest I didn’t really care for her. She was being rude to me for no apparent reason, and I just didn’t get a good impression from her.

Later on while she was on break I noticed that she was crying. I then started to feel bad that I had judged her on that she was being kind of rude to me that I forgot in that moment that there is usually more to a person then what they present. That maybe she had been mean because she was actually hurting inside. She then comes up to me later and tells me that she is diabetic and was struggling. The lady ended up feeling better and we got along after that point. I was also reminded of that important lesson that we don’t know what others are truly going through each day.

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I can honestly say that this applies in my own life strongly. Some of the hardest battles I’ve faced I haven’t shown to the world and haven’t spoken to many about. When I’ve dealt with all these struggles like the one lady I thought was rude I also too sometimes acted out with anger because of what I was going through. Just because someone acts a certain way doesn’t mean it defines their character as a whole. We don’t know what that person has gone through in their life. This is why it’s important to be kind to even the people who are not so nice to you, because often enough it’s because they are hurting from the pain you are going through in their life.

No, that doesn’t give people the excuse to run all over you; however, I think it can give us all empathy for others and not be so quick to judge. After all, those people who are hurting are probably the ones who need the niceness someone else can offer them. Funny enough when I showed I cared to that lady who was mean to me she started acting very nice towards me and I think it was because she needed a person to hear her at and know that someone was there if she needed.

I’m writing this to remind myself and others that we never know what another person is walking through in their life and that’s why we need to keep spreading love/ kindness. To all of you reading this I want to challenge you all to be nice to those who are not as pleasant for you to deal with and do something nice for someone. This will not only make others feel great, but it will also help you feel great in the process as well. Let’s all go out and create a more beautiful world to live in! Well, that’s all I got for today until next time…

Talk to you later dreamers,

Amber