Growing up my mom would always play movies about superheroes. There was usually some person who was in distress, but then some hero would come save them from this evil villain. There was one factor that I didn’t like when I watched these movies and that was that those people couldn’t help themselves. Especially as a woman it felt discouraging to me that most of these people were woman who had to always be saved by men.
As I get older I see how these movies are like life in general. No, there might not be some random person called the Joker going around calling chaos, but there is always a circumstance in your life that happens where you look to a ‘hero’. When we are growing up our hero may be our parents or our teachers. When we are sick the heroes are doctors. When we are stuck at the side of the road the hero is a police officer or a friendly car that decides to offer their assistance. There are heroes in our lives and what’s really neat to think about is that you can be a hero too. You don’t have to wear a cape or have some sort of title. You can be a hero no matter your status.
It took me a while in my own life to realize that I could be a hero. Like some of those woman that I disliked playing victim in those superhero movies — I too would play victim but with my own life. It was something I didn’t even entirely realize that I did for a long time. When something horrible happened in my life I would complain and want people to feel sorry for me. I learned this behavior from my childhood, and this mentality that I learned would effect me until I was around twenty-four. It was around that age that something just really clicked inside of me, and I realized I didn’t want to be a victim in my own story anymore. I realized I could either keep playing the victim for the rest of my life or choose to rise above it all and be the hero. I made a choice after that to be a hero and I haven’t looked back since.
Since I’ve made that decision I’ve had a lot of crap happen to me, but instead of falling victim to my circumstances like I used to I decided that what I was going through was going to make me stronger. I would tell myself that I could get through something instead of telling myself that I couldn’t. I changed the internal self talk. When I go through something now I tell myself that “I may not know how I’m going to get through it but I will.” When the me from a decade ago would have told herself “there is no way” and spend all my time worrying. But now I know I’m a hero and I will make it through whatever life is going to throw at me. This doesn’t mean I’m always perfect and don’t sometimes have negative self talk, but the difference is I don’t stay trapped in it like I used to.
I don’t know what you all are going through right now, but I want you all to know that you can also be the hero of your story. What you are going through right now may be the hardest thing you’ve ever gone through before, but that hero that lives inside of you is stronger than any battle. I don’t care how old you are, what you look like, or who you were in your past — you can decide right now that you are a hero and go on your heroic journey. You just have to make that one decision and everything else you need is inside of you.
Now let’s go kick some butt– until next time,