Positively Optimistic Day #101- Overthinking

“We are dying from overthinking. We are slowly killing ourselves by thinking about everything. Think. Think. Think. You can never trust the human mind anyway. It’s a death trap.”- Anthony Hopkins

When you see the term overthinking in the dictionary I feel like my picture should be right by it. Because if I’m the queen of anything it has to be that. My overthinking is so bad that I could spend so much time overthinking why I overthink.

As you probably know already overthinking can be really bad. I’d like to say sometimes it’s a good thing. I feel like my habit of overthinking plays a lot into my creativity which is the thing I love about myself. If I had to name one thing I love most about myself it would have to be that I’m a creative person.

However; overthinking has also been one of the worst things in my life. It’s like one little bad thing could happen to me and my mind could make it way worse than what it actually was. Or I could be in a great mood then think of a bad memory and just keep thinking about it until the point I’m in such a bad mood.

And don’t even get me started on the “what ifs”. The what ifs are the worst because you over think every bad scenario that could happen in the future. What if I did this? What if this happened?? What if the same thing happens?

Overthinking can really be either a gift or a curse. Depending on how it is used. I want to challenge you all today to try to stop overthinking the bad things in your life and focus that energy on things that matter. Focus your overthinking on things that will benefit you not hinder you. Use it’s power for the good instead of the evil.

Until tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #100- Time After Time

“There comes a point in your life when you realize how quickly time goes by, and how quickly it has gone. Then it really speeds up exponentially. With that, I think you start to put a lot of things into context; you start to see how huge the world is, and really, the universe.”-Michael Keaton

100 days of this seems unreal. It was 100 days ago I decided to make a change in my life. Oddly enough it feels like it was just yesterday when I made that decision. I didn’t realize back then how much my life would be changed in just a short amount of time.

Seeing how the time has flew by and how so much has happened in that time just really makes me think about how precious time really is to us all. How each moment in our lives really do matter. Life truly goes by in such a blink of an eye and before you know it it’s all over. So that’s why I want to live every day I have here to the fullest.

I want to challenge you all today to do the same. Live your life to the fullest because we are all never truly guaranteed tomorrow. Whatever you want just have the courage to go after it and don’t give up. You don’t want to look back over your life and always wonder what could have been. So go out and start to live you beautiful people! I love you all! Have a great day!

Talk again tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #99- Ready, Set…Um Go

“No such thing as the right time, situation or place. You have all it takes. Just dig within. Exhume all the greatness inside of you and transform the world with an inexhaustible drive and without fear of limitations.”-

Chinonye J. Chidolue

As you guys know by now I am late with another blog again. I was working on it yesterday and I had an emergency come up last night that I had to drop everything and go. So I hope you all understand. Needless here is my blog post from yesterday!

Almost 100 days of this guys! Can you believe it?! It’s been so amazing to see where this journey has taken me so far. I owe a lot to this blog to be honest. If it wasn’t for this blog I don’t know where I would be today. And I don’t think I would be doing what I’m about to tell you all..

If I’ve learned anything so far from this journey it’s that you need to go after the things you want. You can’t just sit around waiting. This blog is a testimony to that. I stopped with the “I’ll do that later” and I decided to write it.

At the point when I first started the blog I had recently lost friends that were there for me, I was all alone in a city/state I didn’t know, I didn’t have a reason for staying except I felt God wanted me to stay, I had switched from a job I’d been at for about a year, my love life sucked, I didn’t have any idea what I wanted to do with my life, and etc. you get the picture. My life wasn’t where I wanted it at all.

I would have never imagined at the time I would make new friends (plus all of you followers who are my friends), find a purpose, feel more at home in a place I don’t know, be in a relationship with an incredible guy, feel more confident in my own skin, grow happier, and so much more! To add to the addition I got offered that job I talked about in my previous blog and I’m going to take it. It’s scary because I don’t know how many hours I’ll get a week with it and it’s a reduced pay, but what’s worth it, is that it’s something I really want to do.

I’ve worked so many jobs where I didn’t feel purpose. I didn’t feel like I belonged there. But with this job for the first time I feel like I’d be doing something that would bring me closer to my goals I have in life. I’d feel more purpose and I honestly care about that so much more than the pay.

I’m taking a huge jump doing this all. It’s really scary because I don’t know where it’s going to take me, but at the same time I’m very excited too. I hope that also by me taking this incredibly scary jump in my life that it inspires all of you to go after what you want. Don’t let anything stop you!

My life has changed so much for the better because I made conscious decisions in my life to go after what I wanted. I’ve learned after years of waiting around that no one is going to hand you something. If you are unhappy with something in your life no one has the power to change it but you and God. But even God wants you to take action in your life.

It’s ultimately your choice. You could sit around being miserable with your life or you can make the decision to change it for the better. You may think “No Amber you are all wrong bad things just happen to me.” And I’m just gonna be all up in your face telling you that “bad things happen to everyone, but it’s your choice how you let it effect you. And by choosing negatively you are just going to attract more bad things your way.”

I know this from experience. I’ve gone through a lot and for a long time I just had a pity party for myself. I felt sorry for myself and I told myself only bad things happened to me. So guess what happened to me? Bad things came into my life.

If I can change my life then I know for a fact all of you can as well. You just have to make a decision to go after things instead of sitting in the side lines. You may be waiting for that perfect timing, but I’m here to tell you there’s no such thing. The perfect time is when you make up your mind that you want something and just go after it. Tell yourself ready, set, and go.

Talk to you all again later today haha,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #98- Perfection

“I know who I am. I am not perfect. I’m not the most beautiful woman in the world. But I’m one of them.”-Mary J. Blige

So I just wanted to come out and tell you all something….

“I’m not perfect.”

Obviously I’m not perfect, but I just wanted to admit it to all of you and myself. Especially myself. Because whether I want to admit it or not I want to be perfect in all the things that I do, but that’s just never going to be possible. No matter how much I want it to be true.

I can’t tell you how much I compare myself to others. I feel like I could win a prize in the “I compare everything about myself to another person” contest. So many times I see these other woman who are around my age and just think they are just the definition of perfect. They look like a freaking Victoria Secrets model while kicking ass in their careers. While most times I feel like I look like a potato just struggling to get by.

I look at them and their lives and feel this envy because I’m not like them..I’m not perfect. The thing though is nobody is. Except Jesus. But you get what I’m saying haha. I know many woman and even men deal with this. Feeling like they are inadequate compared to other people. I mean nowadays it’s hard not to feel like this.

All you have to really do anymore is look on social media and “boom” here comes jealously. Look at Sally Pintobean over here. (Yes I know that is a horrible last name but work with me) Sally posts that she just got married to Brad Pitt, she moved into a gigantic house, drives a really nice car, has her dream job, she can’t take a bad selfie, has traveled all around the world, is rich, and on top of it all she’s expecting her first child…all before turning 25. This is an extreme example, but you get where I’m getting at.

We see peoples “perfect” lives on social media and when we compare them to our lives we feel less then. The thing about that though is yes, Sally Pintobean may have a good life, but she also has problems too. For starters she was bullied about her last name for a very long time. She has gone through abusive relationships in the past. She wasn’t always so pretty. She has had a miscarriage. She still struggles with feeling good enough too. Yet we don’t know any of this because Sally doesn’t tell everyone.

We look at everyone else and think “man they have it easy” or “their life is so perfect.” But the truth is we are all going through things. Some of us may have it harder than others, but no ones life is truly easy. We all have to deal with insecurities no matter how beautiful we are, we all have to deal with loss of loved ones, we all have to deal with hurt that life causes us.

I want to challenge you all today to stop thinking you wish you were like so and so. When those thoughts creep in just tell yourself they are not perfect either. No matter how perfect they might seem. And I want you to remind yourself how much of a beautiful person you are both in and out.

I have a great example of this from my life today. I went to an interview for a job that I really want and while I was there I saw all these woman who looked flawless and had their lives put together. I then went into my interview and then the interviewer asked me the question “why should we pick you out of all the others who I’m interviewing today?”

Then all of a sudden an answer came over me that might have seemed conceited, but it wasn’t.

What I basically said was:

“I’m not like anyone else. For a long time I felt like that was a bad thing, but through my journey I’ve learned to embrace it. And to tell the truth it would be the companies loss not to hire me, not mine.”

After I said that I felt like it sounded like I was full of myself which was far from the truth. I’ve just learned through my life that I am worth something. I used to believe I was worthless. But now I can look at myself and know that after everything I’ve been through I am worth so much. And if any job, person, or anything can’t see that then they aren’t worth my time. I realize now I deserve so much and I refuse to settle for less. I want you all to feel the same way about yourselves.

That’s all I got for today!

Talk again tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #97- Where Did You Go?

 “When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world.” Eckhart Tolle

First of all I wanted to apologize to you all. This is the first day in which I’ve forgotten to post my blog. I had wrote most of it yesterday but had forgot to post it so technically I’m still keeping up with writing everyday it just wasn’t posted on time. I’m human though and I knew it was bound to happen at least once during this year haha.

I’m going to be better about keeping up with it though. Which oddly enough runs into the topic that I wrote about. So here it goes.

I think sometimes we get so wrapped up in things that we forget about ourselves in the process. For me a big struggle with this in the past has been getting in a romantic relationship and dropping everything for that relationship. As you know already that was the worst idea on the planet. We are human beings and our life is supposed to be about balancing all aspects of our lives.

I’m gradually learning now with my boyfriend that I still need to work on my balance. I would love to spend all of my time with him, but I also have to remember I have other parts of my life I care about too. In fact, that’ll probably make them want you even more. Why? Because they were drawn to those things about you before you even became official. They were drawn to the things that made you, you. Which are your passions, your interests, your personality. So you are doing each other a favor when you work on other areas of your life.

The point I’m trying to make with all of this is don’t give up anything in your life that makes you happy for any person or anything. Besides people you can also get to wrapped up into things like your job. Where it just takes up all your time and you ignore your hobbies and your relationships that bring you joy. Giving up anything in your life that makes you happy for one area is just not good for you. That’s why I wanted to talk about this topic today. Because we don’t tend to think about this but it’s so important.

I challenge you all to apply balance to your life like how I’ve talked about here and my other posts related to balance. It’s a very important thing to have. It not only helps you but everyone around you too. Because it’ll make you happier in the long run and your happiness will rub off to other people too.

Well that’s all I got for yesterday (haha sorry again everyone),

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #96- Admitting You Need Help

“By admitting your inadequacies, you show that you’re self-aware enough to know your areas for improvement – and secure enough to be open about them.”-Adam Grant

The first step in recovery is admitting you have a problem and you need help. Seems so simple yet it’s not. It’s not easy admitting you have a problem or that you need help. I know this from personal experience.

I’ve gotten better over the years about it, but for so long I’ve tried to conquer everything on my own. Including my issues. Lately it’s hitting me hard that some things I deal with need to be addressed and not ignored anymore. I don’t know about you all but I certainly go through times where I just pretend everything is ok when it’s not. Like that one meme where the cartoon dog is saying everything is fine when his house is in flames.

Today I want to challenge you all to be brave enough to accept your weaknesses and be willing to work on them. To not be afraid to ask for help from others who can help you. Be brave lovelies! It’s worth it just like you are!

Talk again tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️

Positively Optimistic Day #95- Too Good to Be True

“Today remind yourself that nothing is too good to be true. Your great hopes can be realized. Your most wonderful dreams can come true. All that you really need, you can have. An incredible goodness is operating on your behalf. If you are living a paltry life, resolve to stop it today. Expect great things to happen.”

– Norman Vincent Peale

I can’t be the only one in life who’s felt like they were on an episode of Punkd when something good happened to them. It’s like “Oh yeah I won this new car..totally..now where is the hidden cameras?!”

It sometimes feels like we have so much crap happen to us all the time that when something good comes along it seems like a joke. You want to say “…just wait for it.” However; I want to tell you all that good things still exist in the world and no you are not on an episode of punkd. You don’t have to live your life thinking that everything positive that happens in your life is an April Fools joke.

If something good comes into your life I want to challenge you all to stop questioning it a billion times and except it. After all you deserve it! You deserve all the happiness this world can offer you. Even if you don’t believe it is so.

I think many of us are just so scared to be happy because there’s a risk we could get hurt in the process. We have to decide if out happiness is worth that though. I have been through much hurt in my life. But thinking back now I much rather have happiness and get hurt then to have never experienced it at all. Plus if you refuse to be happy you still experience hurt anyway. With that logic “why not be happy?”

The only one that can get in the way of you and your happiness is you. You are the only person who can accept it or not accept it. So instead of saying for example an opportunity you may receive is “too good to be true.” Challenge it with “I deserve this opportunity.” If someone new comes into your life stop thinking “well look how it went with everyone else.”

Just stop the inner conflict in your head and just start to live in the moment. Don’t give your happiness all away.

Until tomorrow,

Amber ❤️❤️❤️